You’ve chosen your must play songs.. you know.. the songs that you absolutely cannot go without hearing on your wedding day. These are the songs that if they go unheard things just would not be the same. You have added 8 million songs to your play if possible list to help your wedding DJ understand what type of music you enjoy and want to hear. Now you are looking at the songs and artists that you just cannot stand… maybe they’re too cliche, maybe they’re too traditional, maybe you just want to be different… whatever the reason is let’s break down the Do Not Play list and see if I can help you understand the delicacy of this list!
I understand that hearing the YMCA and Shout at every wedding can be a little much…. I know that Love Shack and You Shook Me All Night Long are songs that you will also hear at almost every wedding. I know that the Cha Cha Slide and Cotton Eye Joe may not be YOUR cup of tea but look at it this way: When you go see your favorite artist live you expect to hear all the songs you know, right? If you went and saw Michael Jackson, when he was still with us, and you didn’t hear Beat It, Billie Jean, Thriller, PYT, and all of his other major hits you would be like “what the….?” Right? People go to hear the songs they know. This expectation is also part of a wedding reception!
When your guests attend your wedding they expect to hear the classics like some of the ones I listed above. These are songs that everybody knows. Just because you hate the YMCA doesn’t mean your 150 guests also hate the YMCA. Keep in mind that your reception is a celebration of a new chapter in your life. Your reception is also a way to thank your guests for coming and joining you in such a pivotal moment in your life! What a way to thank Aunt Susie when she comes and asks me why I won’t play The Electric Slide for her and her siblings… “I’m sorry the bride just didn’t want me to play it.”
If you truly loathe the line dancing songs, the Village People, and all country, I suggest that you pick and choose from each of these categories. If you hate line dancing songs… choose one that doesn’t bother you so much. Most people settle on the Casper Slide because it is short and sweet… I have found that is also less played than the Cha Cha Slide.
If the YMCA does bother you, leave the dance floor and grab a drink, allow your guests to enjoy the song! It isn’t going to hurt you, I promise! And steer away from banning genres of music. This is like telling an entire group of people they’re not allowed to request songs. If you have 0-10 songs on your do not play list you can consider yourself the #pro at selecting all your wedding songs!
I leave you, at the end of this 3rd installment, with this: It’s your wedding… do as you want and wish! Consider my suggestions as other DJs would want you to also give these blogs some thought. We are here to make your dreams a reality! Don’t let music selections hinder the fun of all the people that came to your wedding to see, & celebrate with, you!